Male Rape & Sexual Assault

There are many reasons why male victims often do not come forward and report rape or sexual assault, including guilt and self-blame.

Some heterosexual males fear that reporting sexual assault or rape means they will be perceived as being a gay male.  However, male sexual assault and rape is irrelevant to the sexual orientation of the attacker or the victim, just as a sexual assault does not make the victim survivor gay, bisexual or heterosexual.

Rape and sexual assault include any unwanted sexual acts. Even if you agree to have sex with someone, you have the right to say "no" at any time, and to say "no" to any sexual acts. If you are sexually assaulted or raped, it is never your fault - you are not responsible for the actions of others.

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Survivors UK

Survivors UK specifically help men who have been sexually abused or raped. Visit their website: www.survivorsuk.org/

Safeline

Helpline 0808 800 5005– dedicated service for men affected by rape or childhood sexual abuse. Visit their website: www.safeline.org.uk/what-we-do/men/

Dorset Rape Crisis

If you have been the victim of a sexual attack or if you know of a family member or friend who has been, you can obtain advice by contacting the Dorset Rape Crisis Support Centre helpline on 01202 308855 or visit www.dorsetrapecrisis.org

The Shores (Dorset SARC)

If you have been raped or sexually assaulted, The Shores, which is the Sexual Assault Referral Centre (SARC) in Dorset, is here to support you. They help you deal with and recover from the emotional and physical effects of the assault and can support you to report the incident to the police - but only if this is what you wish to do.

Visit www.the-shores.org.uk for more information and advice. 

Dorset Police

You can also contact the police on 101 and ask to be put in contact with a specially trained police officer. Always dial 999 in an emergency. 

Dorset Police always respect the wishes of the victim and a specially trained officer will talk to you in confidence and explain fully all the options open to you and will be guided by your wishes.

We understand that you may not want to speak to the police about your experience in the first instance. You can still get help and support even if you don't report what has happened to the police.

The Shores (Dorset SARC)

The Shores, which is the Dorset SARC (Sexual Assault Referral Centre), can offer free and confidential help, support, examination and counselling.

The Shores have independent sexual violence advisors (ISVAs).  They help you deal with and recover from the emotional and physical effects of the assault and can support you to report the incident to the police - but only if this is what you wish to do.

Visit www.the-shores.org.uk for more information and advice.

Dorset Rape Crisis

If you have been the victim of a sexual attack or if you know of a family member or friend who has been, you can obtain advice by contacting the Dorset Rape Crisis Support Centre helpline on 01202 308855 or visit www.dorsetrapecrisis.org 

Dorset Police

If you have been a victim of rape or sexual assault, and you want to report directly to the police please call 101 and ask to be put in contact with a specially trained police officer. Always dial 999 in an emergency. 

Dorset Police takes all reports of rape and sexual assault seriously, no matter when they happened or who you are. Rape or sexual assault that has happened a long time ago will also be investigated.

Dorset Police has specially-trained officers who can help and advise you. They are dedicated to investigating these sorts of offences, will talk to you in confidence, will explain the options open to you and will be guided by your wishes.

Call Crimestoppers on 0800 555 111.

Click here for details of what happens if you report sexual abuse and what support you are entitled to if you have experienced sexual abuse.

Do believe him. Remember he has overcome great obstacles to be able to speak about what happened and his experience is not any less traumatic because he is a man. They have told you because they can trust you and need your help and support.

You may feel anger and want to confront the person who did this or call the police but this may not be in the best interests of the victim. Allow him to keep control by asking how you can help. Also be aware that it can be distressing when someone close to you is hurt. It is important that you are aware of you own feelings and that you may need support. 

 

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